On Learning to Love Yourself


I have always struggled with confidence —especially my weight. When I was a Senior in high school, I had to take steroids to combat a virus and gained twenty pounds. Since, I haven’t been able to lose the extra-pounds and have carried the weight of low self-esteem around with me. I’ve never been a tiny girl per say. And in a skewed society where beauty is largely determined by the size of your waist, I always felt awkward. But I’m slowly learning to be comfortable in my own skin and love myself.

Comparing yourself to others is a toxic activity. While, it’s human-nature to care about what other’s think… I am finally saying, “Screw it!” (And you should too!) I’m surrounded by people who love and support me, am thriving in my professional career, and found happiness in blogging. 

Flowers don’t compare themselves to others, they just bloom.


Treat yourself like you’re worthy. A couple months ago, I made a lifestyle change when my health became a concern. I began eating healthy, getting exercise, and listening to my body. We need to be good to ourselves. Treat and talk to yourself like you would someone you love.


Step out of your comfort zone. In the past year, I have surprised myself SO much! A year ago, I could never imagine that I’d be as independent and fearless as I am now. I have accomplished many things I was once scared of. Living on my own, driving in the rain, holding a snake (Now I OWN one!!), etc. But it’s said that everything you want is just right outside your comfort zone… That’s also why I decided to be proud of my body and take photos in a bikini!! Curves and all ?

Remember when Victoria Secret used to sell bathing suits? The good ol’ days…

Thank God for Target! I love Target bathing suits —they are super cute and affordable!! Plus they have TONS of styles. (I have like 7 suits… ?) I love this top especially though… the halter top makes sure it alllll stays in and the aztec pattern is fun!

My beach cover up is from Ivory Ella. I’ve heard about Ivory Ella before but this is my first piece from them! My goodness, is it soft!! The cover up is a wonderful terry-cloth material. I think the tie-up front is SO adorable. I also really love the hood and kept throwing it up during the day! Actually, Ivory Ella just released an entire beach collection!

Loop Terry Lace Up Pullover  

Women’s High Neck Bikini Top – Multi Print – Xhilaration

What beach are you closest to?

Are you a beach bum?



  1. Reanne

    Love this post, girl! Bravo for your confidence – you are stunning and so is your message! I write a lot about self-love & self-care on my blog littlefoolbook.com, where I’m currently celebrating #TheSummerOfSelfLove! Would love for you to join in 🙂 xx

    14 . Jun . 2017
  2. Katie

    YES YES YES!! Learning to love ourselves, as we are, is so SO important and I’m glad that you’re coming around and saying “screw it!” because girl, you’re beautiful on the inside and out as you are!

    14 . Jun . 2017
  3. Alexandra

    I am not really living close to an ocean beach, but if lake beaches count, then I live fairly close to a couple here in Northern Italy 😉 Agree, self love and acceptance is very important. But not always an easy road. I think self love is important because not only do you feel at ease with your body, you are also making better decisions on your behalf.

    Have a great day 🙂

    Alex – Funky Jungle

    14 . Jun . 2017
  4. Charlotte

    Oh, my goodness… I couldn’t love this post more than I already do <3 First, you are stunning. And you are totally rockin' that itty bitty bikini 🙂 But more importantly, finding peace and happiness with who we are, that takes many people a LIFETIME to learn. So proud that you shared this with us. XOXO

    14 . Jun . 2017
  5. Nicole Booz

    Thank you for sharing this! Everyone’s self-love journey is different and like Charlotte said, it can take some people a lifetime to learn. You are killing it!

    14 . Jun . 2017
  6. Hanna Doerbeck

    Such an incredible post! You look ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!! No matter how you look, everyone always has a certain amount of self doubt–and it is so great that you have found a way to overpower any low self esteem, and you are reaching out to others! That’s what I love about blogging–and you are putting such a positive message out there! you go girl 🙂 !!

    14 . Jun . 2017
  7. Malissa at Quotation Re:Marks

    This is such a great post! And so important for women everywhere to realize. 🙂 I’m glad to hear you’re on the path to loving yourself! (PS – Victoria Secret still sells bathing suits, online anyway.)

    14 . Jun . 2017
  8. Kaity | With Kids and Coffee

    Yes to all of this!! Self-love is such a journey and a process that you need to stay engaged in and work on. Glad to hear that you’re blooming. 🙂

    14 . Jun . 2017
  9. Christa Stull

    This is a wonderful post! You’re absolutely beautiful, good job on embracing yourself. I too struggle with confidence, basically because of being bullied in school and it’s stuck with me all these years..but, I’ve learned to love myself and embrace the flaws…No one is flawless.. Thank you for such a great, inspiring post!

    14 . Jun . 2017
  10. Ying- NavigatingAdulthood

    This is so true, “Comparing yourself to others is a toxic activity.” You gave such awesome tips!

    14 . Jun . 2017
  11. Taylor

    You go girl! You look fabulous!! Thanks so much for sharing your positivity and I hope you continue to grow with confidence! Everyone deserves to love who they are <3

    xx, Taylor (thesprinkle.tayloramead.com)

    15 . Jun . 2017
  12. the sophia diaries

    Love the inspiration of this post!!!

    15 . Jun . 2017
  13. Anika

    Love the flowers quote – great post and love photos!

    Anika xo | anikamay.co.uk

    15 . Jun . 2017
  14. Jamie Fray @ The Skinny Soul

    I really love this post–having a healthy body image is something that is close to my heart, and I loved hearing some of the strategies you’ve used to help change your view of yourself. You are beautiful, btw–so natural and healthy and happy. Great post. I’m so glad you’re putting this out there because it’s something that all women, regardless of size or shape, need to hear!!

    15 . Jun . 2017
  15. Cameron - Diary of a Southern Millennial

    Love this so much! Congrats on your gained confidence! A very similar thing happened to me in high school, so I definitely know how you feel. On another note, I’m also sad VS isn’t selling bathing suits anymore (one of my favs is from them), but thank goodness for Target! Love your suit!

    15 . Jun . 2017
  16. Lisa

    Good for you girl! Being comfortable in your skin and following your dreams are two things way too many people struggle with.

    15 . Jun . 2017
  17. Christine Anne

    Girl! You spoke to my soul! I’ve haven’t been skinny since like 8th grade. And you’re right society puts these images in our heads of how we’re “supposed” to look. It’s not good for our health and mentality. I’m going to say “screw it” right with you! 🙂

    15 . Jun . 2017
  18. Maegan Clark

    What a great coverup! ANd I love this post, it can be hard to learn to love yourself but once you do it’s amazing!

    15 . Jun . 2017
  19. Anna

    This is a great post Carly! I’m glad that you’ve learned to love yourself! And I can honestly relate because I’ve always been what some magazines call “skinny fat” – I’m a small dress size but i wouldn’t consider myself to be lean. However, in the past couple years I’ve learned to love myself more!

    P.S. – rocking that bikini!

    15 . Jun . 2017
  20. Tilley

    I think everyone can relate to this post no matter what size they are! You are so right…comparison is the thief of joy!

    16 . Jun . 2017
  21. Candice Nikeia

    Self-love is so important and thanks for sharing your journey! Love the bikini!

    16 . Jun . 2017
  22. amy

    Such a great post!! I think all of us have trouble at one point or another loving ourselves, but it’s so important to accept ourselves just the way we are and know that we are great in our unique way! Loved reading this!
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

    16 . Jun . 2017
  23. courtney

    You are so beautiful and you deserve to love every bit of yourself. It is a really difficult journey and something I struggle with everyday but we are all so worthy of feeling beautiful.

    19 . Jun . 2017
  24. Kendel

    YES! I had a baby four months ago, and I’ve been told “Well done, you’ve done so well to lose the weight!” and it just makes me feel awkward. I still don’t feel like this is my body, but I don’t CARE. People make such a big issue about women fitting into a certain box to be ‘attractive’ and I feel like males have such a looser definition. Self love is the most important thing. If you have self-love then you don’t need anything else!

    26 . Jun . 2017

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