Why You Should Get Rid of The Toxic People in Your Life
When I was younger, I was a magnet for toxic guys –drug problems, anger problems, cheating problems, commitment problems, etc. I brought them into my life and thought I could change them. Wasn’t there something romantic about fighting for love? So, I bounced out of one unhealthy relationship to the next.
I was such a vibrant, happy young woman. They saw that and fed on my personality. Eventually, my natural light began to dim as I lost myself. Toxic people suck the good out of you. They can manipulate you, make you feel crazy, and bring you down with them. Being with a terrible person awakens the terrible inside of you.
On Letting Go
Not all toxic people are mean and heartless. Sometimes the signs aren’t clear. Toxic people can be friends, family members, significant others, or even co-workers. They may not be essentially bad but they force us to compromise our happiness. You deserve happiness.
It can be difficult to let go of an unhealthy relationship. An unhealthy relationship often leaves you feeling powerless, insecure, and depressed. So, it is understandable how so many people end up staying. It can be especially hard for someone to admit a person they love is toxic. It’s important to do what’s best for you, though. Nor should you should ever feel guilty for letting a toxic person go.
Putting Yourself First
I’m a little more hesitant of who I let into my inner circle nowadays. I stand up for my beliefs, feel empowered as a woman, and am proud of who I am. So I protect my accomplishments. I believe you deserve to be picky with your life. It’s alright to be selfish and make the best decision for you.
A toxic person is like poison to your brain. Their words follow you around and slow your progress. You may not even realize how toxic someone is until you get a breath of fresh air.After giving so much of yourself to someone, it’s time to remind yourself how great you really are and that you are worthy of love.
Contrary to my younger, naive self: There is nothing romantic about fighting for love. Your relationship shouldn’t feel like a battlefield. If someone truly loves you, they won’t make you feel like you’re never good enough. While it’s normal for people to fight, there’s a difference between healthy communication and looking for an argument.
Cleanse yourself of toxic people. Instead, surround yourself with people that lift you up and challenge you to improve. Relationships aren’t meant to be competitions.
You have the power to control your life. Remember, it’s better to be alone than be with someone who makes you feel like you’re hard to love. Learn to love yourself and make yourself happy. Then, let no one take that away from you.
If you find yourself crying all the time in a relationship, stop and ask yourself: Am I dating a human? Or an onion?
Think about the relationships in your life. Is there anyone you should cut out of it? What is stopping you? Or maybe you’ve had to make the difficult decision to cut a best friend, boyfriend, or someone else out of your life before… I’ve been there. Removing a toxic person from your life isn’t always easy but it is mentally, physically, and emotionally, rewarding.
Let’s start the conversation: Have you ever had to let go of someone holding you back?